Can you ask why you weren't hired?
The short answer is, yes. Though, you'll have much better luck if you don't ask directly why you weren't hired.
That said, you have nothing to lose in strategically and tactfully asking for feedback. Worst case scenario, the employer doesn't respond. Best case scenario, you may get information to help improve your chances of a successful interview next time around.
A request for information delivered in a way that appears to question the validity of their hiring decisions will only serve to close down all communication. Try something like: “So I can improve in future job interviews, do you mind me asking for feedback on my interview skills?”
Side Note: If you spoke with someone earlier in the process, like a recruiter or HR person, they might be easier to approach rather than the hiring manager. The hiring manager or interviewer is often the busiest person, so to get their time can be very difficult. A recruiter on the other hand may be more willing to give feedback since they’re charged with providing a positive recruiting experience for candidates.
One way to get feedback is to initiate a conversation by sending a brief email or LinkedIn message. If they are willing to provide some feedback, be sure to have constructive questions prepared for input such as:
- Did you identify any key qualifications for this job that were missing in my background?
- Do you have any suggestions regarding how I might improve upon my resume and cover letter?
- Did you feel like my job references could have been stronger?
- If for some reason your new hire didn’t work out and you reopened this position in the future, which marketing or personal skills do you think I should strengthen in order to be reconsidered for the job?
- Do you have any tips on how I could have better researched your company before our interview?
- Is there any advice that you might give me in order to enhance my interviewing style?
(Side note: Employers are generally more likely to share feedback verbally than via email due to concerns that any written response may be used as evidence against them if a hiring decision were to be legally contested.)
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